Erin's Journals

Sunday, March 29, 2020

Just a thought… In a world where you can’t really choose to be anything you want right now….BE KIND…and Patient, and Loving, and well – just more kind. [Ellen Wasyl – thepossibilityexperience.com]

Welcome to another weekend journal. I picture you in bed, or sitting quietly in a chair as another day dawns…maybe a coffee or a tea in hand. I’m writing this from my bed, with a sleeping dog next to us and the rain falling softly. And for this moment, all is normal. Until, that is, I open my Twitter feed!

Yesterday I tweeted a picture of me with marketing master Terry O’Reilly, first guest on my Real Time podcast for the Canadian Real Estate Association (for whom I’ve done work in the past, visiting cities across the country and hosting their live events). I love these folks and Rob and I are thrilled to be working with them for a series of ten podcasts this year.

Anyway, I put out the info about our first podcast on Twitter and tagged @terryoinfluence, our guest.

To my utter amazement, when Terry RT’d it, he got this response:

Yes, the picture was taken two years ago. No, it didn’t occur to me to include a disclaimer.

Is this where we are now? We actually have to state when pictures were taken or risk being shamed for not keeping our distances? Will TV shows have to, in addition to the slides they put up before episodes warning of content, also have to say, “The people who are hugging, holding hands, shaking hands, passing a basketball, dining in crowded restaurants, standing at the bus shelter, shopping in grocery stores, holding a wedding, flying to their honeymoon, having sex AND SO ON…were portrayed doing so before social distancing and the outbreak of the coronavirus. Viewer Discretion is Advised.”

I mean, sometimes a little common sense goes a long way, right?

Still, seeing those scenes in our living rooms (I mean on TV, of course, unless that’s where you make out, hold weddings, etc.) is disconcerting when we are so hyper aware of what we can and cannot do in these shaky days. And it’s also why my podcast with Terry includes a disclaimer, one which may be edited out in several months’ time for the sake of posterity, that the interview was conducted before the outbreak of COVID-19.

What strange days these are. As John Lennon sang, “…most peculiar, momma.”

I’ll be back with a new journal for you tomorrow.

Rob WhiteheadSunday, March 29, 2020
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Saturday, March 28, 2020

Just a thought… Most people that I know are interested in on-demand stuff. A podcast is essentially audio Netflix. [Jordan Harbinger]

How are you doing? Staying safe, staying sane and staying away (or home)? That’s my new mantra. Rob and I are trying our best as we enter day two of week two of our self-isolation.

It’s been far busier than I’d ever expected, but we do still carve out time to catch up with shows we’ve been promising to get to forever. Like the FX mini series FOSSE/VERDON. Eight episodes in all (which could easily have been six, in my opinion), it tells the story of one of the great showbiz couples of song and dance. The hugely talented Sam Rockwell and Michelle Williams star in the series. Next up: that wackadoo Tiger King offering on Netflix.

These days, I’m hugely grateful to be able to watch Seth Meyers’ take on the events of the day in A Closer Look, which is available on YouTube. I’ve always appreciated Seth and his writers, and missing them has made that fondness grow deeper.

Trevor Noah is putting out some exceptional pieces these days, too. I am as grateful for comedy as ever, even watching HBO’s daily reruns of old Larry David Curb Your Enthusiasm episodes.

Today, I offer you a diversion of a different kind and I wonder how many people reading this have never listened to a podcast. Millions upon millions are doing just that. Why? Because although radio listening still leads for in-car listenership, there’s nothing like being able to hear who you want, what you want, when you want it.

It’s a whole new world and some of it is pretty exciting. Mind you, there are a lot of folks out there who think because they have a laptop and a computer, it makes them broadcasters – and in the most literal sense, I suppose it does – but the job for the person on the mic is never to be boring. Tell a story. Make that one listener want to spend time with them. All lessons that can be years in the learning.

If you have not, I’ll tell you that podcasts are like radio shows with no limits. Hosts can deep dive into interviews and discuss whatever they want, from the value of laundry lint to the marvelous major thoughts of the geniuses of our time. It’s that varied. The shows are put up on a digital platform where people can access them through their computers or phones and they’re there for the taking.

My personal favourite is one I’ve mentioned before: CBC’s Under the Influence with Terry O’Reilly (more on him later). I also have a few others, including author and thinker Malcolm Gladwell’s Revisionist History Presents. But there’s everything from true crime stories to fiction to…well, you name it. It’s a whole new world that’s not so new, but with which some folks still are unfamiliar. So this next part is for you.

How does one listen to or download a podcast? Easy! I’ve got a link for you right here to lead you through, step by step, as I did for my sister yesterday over the phone. You’ll be glad you did, I promise.

Since leaving radio, the idea of doing a podcast was always percolating in the back of my mind. But this year the Canadian Real Estate Association (CREA) reached out to me with a suggestion: what if I was to host interesting chats with guests who could shed light on marketing, becoming and staying successful in the business (especially during these challenging times) and living in or selling a “green” home – stuff like that?

Rob (my producer) and I were intrigued. And when they suggested Terry O’Reilly, the Canadian and world-renowned marketing and advertising genius as my first guest, I leapt at the chance.

Well, today my friend, I can tell you that our very first podcast called REAL Time has arrived! You can find it at CREA’s website

I promise you’ll love it. The best ideas that have stood out in marketing? We’ve got them. The reason selling and buying a home are such a huge deal in our lives? Answered. How to “zig” when the rest of the world “zags?” Terry answers it all. And if you’re a realtor reading this, you’re invited to call and leave a voicemail to be featured on a future show.

We just recorded another yesterday with a third on tap to record Monday. (Yes, we’re busy in all of the best ways!) They’ll be released on a monthly basis, but maybe today, as you’re enjoying a cup of tea or coffee, or just some time for yourself, settle in for our first one: two friends having a fun chat and sharing some really fantastic information while we’re at it.

No one’s trying to sell you anything; this is all part of CREA’s service to its realtor members. The bonus is, I get to share it with you, too.

Will I one day do a podcast that is about my own choice and source of topics? Perhaps. If life has taught me anything (and I sure hope it has), it’s never to say “never.”

Have a lovely, gentle Saturday. Enjoy our podcast and I’ll be back with you here tomorrow. Stay safe, stay sane, stay away (just not from here)

– Erin.

Rob WhiteheadSaturday, March 28, 2020
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Friday, March 27, 2020

Just a thought… There is a difference between being bold and being rash. [Amy Klobuchar]

Ah….Friday. Thinking of everyone who actually has a weekend coming and has never deserved or earned one more. For the rest of us, let’s take a moment to consider something WAY less important, and come back tomorrow for a link to an exciting venture – a brand new podcast – that launched this week. I think you’ll love it.

When I was in Toronto in January 2020 BC (Before Coronavirus) I made the time to go visit my favourite hairstylist, Paula Daddario at eleven/e2. Little did we know that it would be my last time in any chair for a while; but before I star in Roots: The Sequel, I can’t even tell you how thrilled I was to come home and find these in my bathroom!

Yes, I use this stuff to prolong the time between salon visits. 

With memes like this making the rounds…

…can you blame me?

I reached out to Paula to come up with her Hair Expert’s 10 Commandments (what NOT to do while we’re self-isolating and our favourite stylist is waiting out the pandemic at home).

Here we go, with my comments in italics.

Paula’s 10 Commandments for At-Home Hair

1. Stay away from the box. We have no idea what’s in the box.

Yeah but…my roots! You’re the colour specialist – no question.

I’m just trying to keep from looking like I’ve been in isolation for three weeks, which I have. I promise not to change my colour or use something new. Promise, Paula.

2. Stay away from the scissors; that way you won’t be tempted.

During these days of self-isolation that is some advice that fits in all kinds of ways.

3. Scarfs, hats and accessories will hide those roots. They’re only going to get worse.

4. Don’t “bang” yourself or anyone you’re in self-isolation with.

OMG I had to confess this to Paula in January (as if she didn’t notice)! I was so tired of my long fringe that I – brace yourself – took Rob’s beard trimmer to my bangs. How I missed shaving off my eyebrows, I have no idea.

5. Try some new products. 

Got some of those little trial packets around the house? See if they actually do help your hair! I mean, really, what have we got to use? But don’t be like me: I put a Dermalogica facial firmer in my hair before drying the other day. It didn’t hurt and guess what? My hair has no wrinkles!

6. If you love your stylist and the shop she works at/owns, buy some gift cards from them and use them for future appointments.

Or maybe send her or him that tip you’d usually add on anyway, now.

7. Bored? Try a new hair drying technique. If you hate it, you can wash it out. Voilà.

8. Leave your partner’s hair alone.

Unless you usually do it, or they beg you. Then ask them 14 times if they’re sure and double-check that you have a pre-nup.

9. Don’t cut layers at home. You have no idea what you’re doing.

I can’t even cut a layer cake without it resulting in disaster. She’s so right on this.

10. If you wear extensions, low pony – low braid. This will see you through until you can get to your appointment.

Maybe try to make an appointment now for sometime down the road?

Thank you so much for this, Paula. I see that eleven/e2 on Irwin Avenue in Toronto is adding additional spots after April 8 (subject to change, of course). And if you want to book an appointment with the funniest, sweetest and best stylist I know, Paula can be reached at 416-920-6660. And they always have chocolates. The good ones.

Have a gentle Friday, hang in there. As always, if you have any tips you’d like to add to this journal, go to my Facebook page and leave them there.

As for the kids? They’re on their own. As my dad says, “The only difference between a good haircut and a bad one is two weeks.” Dad was almost always bald. So take that with a big ol’ grain of salt!

Stay safe, stay sane and stay away – and I’ll be back here tomorrow. Yes, a Saturday journal with some links you’re going to want to listen to. I promise they’ll be worth your time. Labours of love. We’re all in this together – apart. You get what I mean.

 

Rob WhiteheadFriday, March 27, 2020
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Thursday, March 26, 2020

Just a thought…

My wish for you
Is that you continue

Continue

To be who and how you are
To astonish a mean world
With your acts of kindness.

[Maya Angelou]

Here’s to the kindness that is bubbling to the surface of the murky waters we’re all treading these days. I am overdue, but this journal is one that I’ve been compiling for days.

I’ll save the best ’til last, but read on, and if there’s anyone you feel should be thanked – because I’m sure to miss someone – please add your contribution at facebook.com/erindavispage. Other than that, these are not ranked in any kind of order.

Here goes:

Thanks to Kevin Frankish, BT alumnus for inviting me to share an hour with him yesterday. I couldn’t believe how quickly the time passed and I promise it will for you, too. Enjoy: here’s the link

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Now to the folks out there with REAL jobs. I’m talking about the lesser-profile heroes: the people working in grocery stores stocking shelves (including my teenaged niece in Kelowna) and facing people at their worst.

We read that our regular grocery store back in Palm Springs has had plexiglass installed to protect cashiers after one actually got spit on. I can’t even form in my mind any kind of scenario where that could have unfolded. Did someone get called out for buying 18 of something and clearing the shelves? What would make anyone do that?

What’s next: bulletproof glass? Because so many people are armed, and the gun and ammo stores are having their best months in business since someone told them Obama was “coming for there guns.” (Note: Yes, I deliberately used the wrong word!)

I’m thinking of the drivers of trucks, courier and food delivery vehicles and transit of all kinds – from flight crews to cabbies – who are out there trying to make sure people get what they need, and where they absolutely have to be. They’re the ones making sure those shelves stay stocked, until the selfish hoarders fill their carts to the brim and beyond, leaving the rest of us with nothing.

My heart goes out to the members of the media who are working long hours, and putting their own health on the line, to make sure we get the information we need during these tumultuous times.

There’s a lot of mistruth out there and it’s up to us – more than ever – to be discerning about how much and just what we take in and digest. But we can always find a source we trust that will help us to understand and to use that information as power.

These people, the ones who consider what they do a calling more than a job, are working hard to bring it to us and they deserve our gratitude, instead of the constant grenades people throw at “the media” for delivering news they don’t want to hear. Most – not all (looking at FOX, Rush Limbaugh and that putrid lot) – but most are trying to help us to stay safe and to be prepared and informed.

On a related note, thank you to the everyday radio and television people who are doing their jobs, striving to keep a semblance of normalcy, trying to balance the gravity of the day-to-day with humour and sensitivity. The government of Ontario may put them at the very bottom of their list of essential services, but they’re up near the top for people who want to feel connected and informed.

The engineers, the producers and the people whose names you don’t hear or read in the credits: they’re making these miraculous connections possible. (I did it for three months back in 1991 and it made headlines then; who knew that one day everyone would be doing their shows in their bathrobes – or was that just me?)

I would do just about anything to be part of that team right now, being a “helper” if I could. But it’s just not in the cards…

…and letters: thank you to the postal workers and couriers who carry on with their jobs, keeping the mail running and the precious packages coming.

To the ordinary folks who are calling “just to check in,” to volunteers who are doing what they can to help neighbours who are isolating, to those who are risking unpopularity by calling out stupidity and trying to bring attention to the ignorance of others who are endangering the rest of us.

To the police for enforcing rules when those stories of dangerous indifference (large gatherings) are everywhere. To the keepers of order in uncertain times, we thank you.

To the cleaners: the ones following our collective trail and spraying and wiping like our lives depend upon it. Because they do. I hope they know that their work is appreciated. To the restaurant workers who make sure we’re still getting our meals and the farmers whose work brings us that food.

To the Prime Minister for talking to us daily and delivering messages we need to hear and heed. For taking the time to directly address children, helping them to understand what our country, its people – their families – are going through, and need from them. Talking to them on their level; treating them with respect.

To other civic leaders – the mayors and premiers who take the weight of their positions and responsibility for our well-being seriously. And to the people who have put aside their usual political hatred or distaste just to be civil and to cooperate, including those in differing parties who are working together for the greater good. We need only turn on the TV to an American channel or look online to see just how good we actually have it.

It’s time we noticed it. All of us.

Thank you to the people who have earned high-profile platforms and use them for good – people like @ArleneDickinson, @JannArden, @LisaSLisson on Twitter, to name a few outstanding Canadian women – and who are trying to make our increasingly unsteady world just a little better with their wisdom, heart and inspiration.

And finally, a heartfelt shout of gratitude to anyone in health care today. They’re the moms and dads, sisters (like my own, Leslie) and brothers, sons and daughters who run towards the sick and give care instead of sheltering away from them with their own loved ones. The people easing pain, taking temperatures, saving lives and getting us through this pandemic – one mask, one thermometer, one answered call and question, and one swab at a time.

Every single one of them is a hero. You have always had our respect and gratitude, but never more so and in greater waves than right now. When the world has stopped wobbling on its axis and we can breathe freely again, I hope that we’ll all remember who was there for us.

These are the people on the front line putting themselves in harm’s way. For us. No matter for whom we cast a ballot, whom we worship, what colour our skin is, or even how carelessly we’ve treated our bodies over the years, and the past weeks. They’re here for us.

My gratitude – our gratitude – knows no bounds.

I’ll be back with you here tomorrow with a fun piece directly from my hairdresser to you.

Rob WhiteheadThursday, March 26, 2020
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Wednesday, March 25, 2020

Just a thought… When life is sweet, say THANK YOU and celebrate. When life is bitter, say THANK YOU and grow. [Shauna Niequist]

Well, thanks to so many of you, we made it through another black circle on the calendar. Three more to come and then summer. And how about this picture sent yesterday by my friend Nancy who went to the bench in Sidney, BC we couldn’t visit because of self-isolation.

There, she left a perfect, beautiful bouquet which we received later. She even looked up the flowers in Lauren’s wedding bouquets and corsages. I mean REALLY? Tell me please you have someone in your life this kind, loving and thoughtful. When even family forgets, it eases the heart to know that there’s someone like her in our lives. And we are grateful.

We’ll do this – just as millions of people are managing their own troubles every day, around the world and in our neighbourhoods. Tomorrow is a #ThankfulThursday here. Like you, I continue to think about the front line workers, as I have been doing for weeks now. They are literally and figuratively the firefighters who run into danger while so many of the rest of us are safe, sheltering and anxious about the little and not-so-little things that keep us awake at night.

I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t feeling extra anxious these days. The mere act of trying to order groceries online is just running headlong into a wall day after day. We’ll get through this. When isolation ends in 9 days we can only hope we’ll be able to get out to shop quickly and efficiently with gloves and plenty of distance.

We’re staying positive. We have food. We have each other, Rob and I, and Molly. We’re healthy, as are my Dad and sisters, relatives and friends and we have a beautiful place to call home.

Today, you’re going to see some of the view from this home (if the weather holds) and this face, too, if you can join me with Kevin Frankish at 7 pm EDT (4 pm here in Pacific Time) for a live chat as part of his nightly live broadcast. Kevin is, of course, everybody’s favourite former Breakfast Television host. 

It’s all about positivity and he calls it First Aid for Your Mental Health. There’s an episode here from Monday if you want to take a peek, to see what we’re going to be doing. Isn’t it a marvel that we can pull this off? (At least I hope that we can – we’ll cross our fingers.)

Just go to www.facebook.com/kevinfrankish and it should take you there; email me if it doesn’t. Again, it’s at 7 pm EDT and we’ll talk then.

In the meantime, as I was having a day yesterday (and you know why) – I got an email from a friend in Toronto who sent me this screenshot. I looked all day for a sign from Lauren (our medium friend Cyndi asked for one when she was out for a drive and saw three sand cranes – one apart from the other two – plus deer leaping in front of her car). Maybe David sending me this was my message.

I was humbled, amazed and grateful to see that Mourning Has Broken is a Staff Pick on the Toronto Public Library website e-book page. Thank you, David, for passing this along.

In the meantime, keep going.

Don’t let the dark thoughts in; don’t let the dark thoughts win.

Sobriety is hard but you’re worth it and I expect nothing less (she’d say).

And just keep spreading the message of “reclaiming joy,” no matter what.

That’s what I got yesterday. A stretch? Maybe. But today and always, we take what we can, and we are grateful.

Talk to you later today/this evening.

Rob WhiteheadWednesday, March 25, 2020
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